Whatever It Takes

I wanted to share this very self enriching article about self esteem.  Everyone should know what is this all about.   This will make us understand fully ourselves and how to face life ahead.   It’s my wish that all the people will be fully aware on their own behavior.   In this way, life would be easier even in the most intricate situation.

Your self esteem is critical to your success….

It can be hard to identify what exactly healthy
self-esteem is.

The signs of an unhealthy self-esteem are usually
obvious. Someone who cuts themselves down a lot
and is always afraid to make big decisions or use
their talents doesn’t have healthy self-esteem.

Arrogance and boasting are also signs of a poor
self-esteem, even though the person comes across
as supremely self-confident. I think we all know
our fair share of braggarts. It’s hard to spend
time with them.

How many people do you know with healthy
self-esteem?

Nathaniel Branden says, “To trust one’s mind and
to know that one is worthy of happiness is the
essence of self-esteem.”

He goes on to say that someone with high
self-esteem is able to persist in the face of
difficulties. And the more one perseveres, the
more one is likely to succeed.

Self-esteem doesn’t let us simply feel
better…it lets us live better. And to respond
to challenges and opportunities resourcefully.

We usually tend to feel the most comfortable with
people whose self-esteem level is similar to ours.

So if you think you have low self-esteem, start
seeking out people with healthy self-esteem. Take
note of how they think and behave and try to
emulate that. We all need role models and mentors.

Decide how you think the world SHOULD be.

Then, when life doesn’t obey your rules, get angry!
That’s what miserable people do!

Let’s say you expect that:
* People SHOULD appreciate you.
* Planes SHOULD arrive on time.
* Your husband SHOULD remember your birthday.

Sounds reasonable …
but often, these things won’t happen!
So you end up frustrated.

Happy people make fewer DEMANDS on life.
Instead, they have PREFERENCES!

They say:
“I would prefer “A”, but if “B” happens, it’s OK too!”

I PREFER the neighbours to be quiet -
but if they make a noise, I can handle it.

I PREFER people to see my point of view - but when they disagree, it is OK.

You have preferences about the outcome of your plans, but you accept WHATEVER happens.

So your mission today?
Instead of making DEMANDS on life and people, have PREFERENCES.

There are two ways to become happier:
a) change the world, or
b) change your thinking.

It is easier to change your thinking!

I came across today a story from a local newspaper which reported a Taiwanese groom who died on his wedding day after having too much wine and beer to drink.   The man was only 35 years old, an insurance company worker.  He passed out at home after drinking too much on his wedding day.

It was not known if he had health complications.  Everyone was having a great time according to the party organizer.   The man was hospitalized after his face turned black.   He died despite treatment.

This is really a very sad and traumatic experience for the wife.   A lot of questions coming from my head….. One, was the husband celebrating happily that’s why he drank too much wine and beer?   Two, was the man trying to drink too much wine and beer to intentionally end his life.    Well,  the news didn’t say anything about the reason but for the sake of discussion we will raise this questions.   What do you think is the reason why he drank too much wine and beer on his wedding day?   If  I’m the groom, I should not be drinking too much wine on my wedding day because I will be anticipating for a more exciting part after the reception…….. the First Night!   How could I perform well if I’m drunk???  That’s my point of view…..what about yours? hahahaha

Hopefully if you’re  reading this you are well aware of the alternatives to using disposable bottles and recycle the ones you do.    The arrival of bottled water sent our already wasteful consumer culture into pollution heightened activity and it’s a tremendous task to halt on the momentum of this waste.      Here is a list of plastic bottle fun facts that put the magnitude of this pollution into scope.

• Plastic bottles take 700 years to begin composting
• 90% of the cost of bottled water is due to the bottle itself
• 80% of plastic bottles are not recycled
• 38 million plastic bottles go to the dump per year in America from bottled water (not including soda)
• 24 million gallons of oil are needed to produce a billion plastic bottles
• The average American consumes 167 bottles of water a year
• Bottling and shipping water is the least energy efficient method ever used to supply water
• Bottled water is the second most popular beverage in the United States

Although it can be easy and convenient to pick up bottle beverage products the end cost to the environment is staggering.    So be mindful when you drink…and remember, friends don’t let your visitors drink from disposables!

Basing on the facts listed above,  I have thought of a way to recycle these bottles in such a way it will turn into a treasure.    It has been said earlier that plastics will take  700 years to decompose.    I have a wild thought of collecting those 80%  bottles which are not recycled and recap them secure this with a plastic material to make an island.   Those who owns resorts can make use of the idea and surely this is a big hit.   Those secured bottles will make a good floater and by covering this with soil you can make an islet.   Using your imagination, make this looks like a real island.   Have it rented for a reasonable price.   I’m sure a lot of tourist or people from your locality would want to take the experience living in an islet for a day or two.   Is this not a good idea to turn garbage into income generating project?

Guys below is a topic discussed by Mr. Andrew Matthews and I just find it worth sharing to make this world a better place to live in.  I know this happened to you too. So please read it and do something….

If forgiving others is difficult, forgiving ourselves is even harder. Many people spend their whole lives punishing themselves mentally and physically for what they believe to be their own shortcomings. Some over-eat, some under-eat, some drink themselves into oblivion, some systematically destroy all their relationships, some live a life of poverty or sickness. At the root of this suffering can be a belief system which says, “I have done a lot of naughty things”, “I am guilty”, or “I don’t deserve to be healthy and happy”. You may be surprised at how many sick people there are who are not convinced that they deserve to be healthy and happy!

If you are feeling guilty, I would suggest that you have put yourself through enough. Why prolong it? If you were to feel guilty for extra year or two. you wouldn’t help things.

Throw out the guilt. Not that it’s always easy to throw it out. maintaining a healthy mind takes a lot of effort as does maintaining a healthy body. It is worth the effort.

Blaming and feeling guilty are equally dangerous and destructive. While we blame God, blame others and blame ourselves, we are avoiding the real issue which is to do something about the problem. It is always OUR CHOICE whether we get on with our life and live in the now, or whether we chain ourselves to grudges and upsets of the past.

Many women would want to get trimmed but most lacks the will. I for one keeps on browsing in this internet trying to find ways to trim down fats in the easiest way. There are those sites that are endorsing slimming pills which offers quick results but I doubt if it is safe. Checking the label and its components won’t help not unless you are a pharmacologist who can distinguish the chemicals or the herbs.

We women should stay trim and fit specially if we have a husband to keep. If we are fat, we tend to be lazy, unattractive, unhealthy, unresponsive to sex and insecure. These are the bad effect of being fat. Women please take note that it is our responsibility to maintain the looks when we first met our husband. Though as we become older it is impossible for us to maintain that looks but atleast we should not changed that bad. I can hear some women says that its not a problem to them if they are fat because there husbands loves them to be fat. That’s nice to hear if your husband is sincere to his words but its not just for your husband but for yourself. We know for a fact that too much fat in our body can cause high blood pressure and eventually affect your hearts’ normal functioning. If your husband wants you to be fat maybe he wants you to die early (just kidding aside). Yes its a joke but did you realize what is it all about? It’s your health babe!!! Please love yourself for heavens’ sake.

I wanted to share something which I have proven effective in trimming down extra fats in our body. This is from my own personal experience. I am also that kind of woman who wanted to get trimmed but lacks the will. However, by just making a slight changes in my diet I was able to lose roughly 10 lbs in 2 months. Well, not bad at all because all I did was just to refrain from eating rice in my meals. I didn’t do any exercise. I only eat fish, meat, vegetables and fruits. In the morning I drink milk and eat 2 slices of white bread with either eggs and some spreads. For me this is already enough to give me heat and energy to start my day. During lunch I only eat viand that is served and also during supper. Now I’m getting used to this diet. Try this I’m sure you too can get the same result as mine. By the way you have to drink also plenty of water. I’m imagining myself 5 months from now a more leaner body I can achieve. So what are you waiting for? Try this….I don’t have a husband to keep but I’m hoping to find one.

Below is a forwarded email from a friend and I was so shocked and disgusted reading it. I personally believe in what has been revealed in here simply because the daily news can support this. I am posting this on my blog as my way of expressing my anger to our present administration so that all of you who can read this will know how wicked and how they are killing the filipino people. This is not a sort of “washing dirty linens in the public”. I choose this forum because filipino people are all over the world looking for a living. It’s just so painful to think that these unscrupulous people are taking advantage of the hard earned money of the poor filipino.

The Financial Analyst of World Bank would like to inform each and everyone of you that the present currency exchange rate of US Dollar to Peso is actually $1 = 52 Pesos. Your government is manipulating the exchange rate for some years now. It is very much improbable and impossible that the Philippine Peso is appreciating compare to Euro, British Pound, Rials, and any other foreign currency. Even your ASEAN neighboring countries are suffering from the Global Crisis. Singapore, a developed country is affected by depreciation of their currency what more of your country?

We admire you for your hard work but we also pity you for having such a very corrupt government that is taking advantage of your hard earned money.

The ARROYO ADMINISTRATION is blatantly milking each and every OFW’s all over the world of billions of pesos for its own greedy, selfish ends. Investigations reveal that this milked money from OFWs will be spent to BRIBE not only PGMA’s pet CROCODILES in CONGRESS but some in the SENATE as well for her to PERPETUATE IN POWER BEYOND 2010. The rest would be deposited to the family’s SECRET ACCOUNT in Switzerland .

Another money-making scheme is the LOTTERY DRAWS.. Filipinos should be aware that all LOTTO
DRAWS are orchestrated, and big money goes to the two sons of the lady president. Recent example is the SUPER LOTTO 6/49 draw, where supposedly two individuals from Luzon won. Do you know WHO these individuals are? It’s Mikey and Datu, who else? One might ask how could the draw be rigged when it is being televised in front of millions of viewers. The answer is simple. As you all know, all bet combinations are being entered into PCSO’s main data base as it is on-line, therefore, it is easy to determine which combinations were NOT betted upon. If they want to raise big money, no winners will be declared until the JACKPOT reaches sky-high because they could dictate the outcome at will. When it’s “HARVEST TIME”, viola, there would be “winner or winners” and the process repeats all over again. One might ask how this is being done. One insider told our investigators that actually the “DRAWN BALLS”, six balls to be exact, are the only set which could fit into the transparent tube which sucks the balls up. All others are slightly bigger than the diameter of the tube which could not be distinguished by the viewers, therefore, there’s no way they could be drawn! You Filipinos are being skinned alive, fried in your own fat and lard by your own government. Do you ever wonder why
president-elect BARACK OBAMA, avoids your president like a stinking leper?

-World Bank-

My quest in finding a partner online started 8 years ago. Men from different countries are all welcome in my messenger. Chatting with various cultures is quiet amusing and exciting. During that time I still don’t have the exact picture on who I wanted to find online. I chatted randomly no matter who this guy is. I didn’t care to check his personal circumstances as long he has a name that’s it. Until one time I was able to find a constant chat mate and I started to get interested in knowing him well. His promises like a bed of roses has lured me so much. My desire to meet him in person intensified because I believe in all his words. In short I fell in love with this guy. I feel as if its real hahahahaha. Only to find out that he has several virtual girlfriends not to mention those real gf. I got affected with that painful truth. Its funny, isn’t it? That was my first experience with this online dating. However, I’m the kind who doesn’t consider failures as a reason to quit. I have had several sad experiences until I became callouse and seasoned in this online dating. Now, I became unaffected and I have also learned how to spot real people in the virtual world. In effect I tend to be more suspicious and over acting which causes sometimes misunderstanding with a promising guy. Ohh my…..i’ve been here for 8 years already and still I have not established a real serious relationship. This alarmed me really. So, I started questioning myself. I tried assesing myself physically……. I’m not that bad looking at all. I am wondering why some girls who could not even express themselves well find their mate so easily. They end up with marriage. It’s so wonderful hearing success stories in this online dating. I’m not hypocrite to deny that I’m envious sometimes looking at those girls walking around with their found mate. There are times when I choose to act naively just to immitate the experiences of those successful real naive women who comes online. It didn’t help actually because of the fact that I’m not really naive. I cannot just allow myself to say simply YES when it is actually a NO for me. By the way, I have also met guys who have expressed their noble intensions but the problem is they didn’t possess the qualities I’m looking for. I’ve realized that I’m too much concern of finding an ideal partner because I don’t want to commit mistake. Though I’m aware that there is no such thing as perfect. Not unless I will be able to learn how to take it easy, finding online mate is impossible for me to happen.

I have recollected the time when I was only between 6 to 7 years old. My parents would always drive us away whenever we happen to join with adult conversing. They would say “hey get out from here this is not for you to join in”. whenever they gather and talk of something I used to peep and tried to listen. I was not interested in their topic but I tried to draw a dream while hearing them conversing. Their restrictions has aroused my curiosity and there I was able to draw my little dream. I told myself that one day I will also do the same thing as what they are doing. I love to converse, talk about on something and ultimately love to share something. That desire of mine was so intense that I mimic them and soliloquy in my solitary moments. That went on until I reached the age 11 years old. After that it has vanished maybe because I was already in my adolescent stage wherein I was so active in my activities and started to enter into a transitional stage. Just recently, one time in my office when I sit on my chair around 4 pm. I was relaxing after a tedious mental and physical activity, I suddenly reminisced my childhood. The time I made my first dream on what I want to do when I will be big enough. After 40 years that little dream came to reality!!! Conversing and dealing with people is now my way of living. I’ve realized that “nothing happens unless first a dream”. That when I was still 7 years old I have already made my VISION in life. I’m thankful to my parents who restricted me to join adult conversation for this has made me draw this vision.