Whatever It Takes

I have made an effort to browse the net and search for a wonderful reading that I can send to my friend who is diagnosed of brain cyst.   I wanted to help her overcome her negative thoughts concerning her ailment.  I made the effort to contact the person whom I knew who also suffered the same ailment.  This person undergone brain operation and he is fully healed now.   I gave her the name of the surgeon who handled the operation.   In this way,  she can draw idea on who to get second opinion.    I’m also sharing her the story of a friend who survived this kind of ailment to eradicate hopelessness.     During our conversation, I felt that she has fear on what might happen to her after an operation.    I interrupted her negative thoughts but the fact that she has already heard of some remote stories in which the operation turned out to be a failure,  she could not help but think of it.    I know that she is a strong woman but considering that this ailment is dreadful, we cannot discount the feeling of uncertainty.   I was able to find this tips on how to help us develop positive thinking.   I firmly believe that positive thinking can help her ameliorate /cope with her predicament.    I am sharing this to everyone with the hope that somebody who is in the same situation can also benefit this.

Here are a few actions and tips to help you develop the power of positive thinking:

Always use only positive words while thinking and while talking. Use words such as, ‘I can’, ‘I am able’, ‘it is possible’, ‘it can be done’, etc.

Allow into your awareness only feelings of happiness, strength and success.

Try to disregard and ignore negative thoughts. Refuse to think such thoughts, and substitute them with constructive happy thoughts.

In your conversation use words that evoke feelings and mental images of strength, happiness and success.

Before starting with any plan or action, visualize clearly in your mind its successful outcome. If you visualize with concentration and faith, you will be amazed at the results.

Read at least one page of inspiring book every day.

Watch movies that make you feel happy.

Minimize the time you listen to the news and read the papers.

Associate yourself with people who think positively.

Always sit and walk with your back straight. This will strengthen your confidence and inner strength.

Walk, swim or engage in some other physical activity. This helps to develop a more positive attitude.

This applies to all our endeavor in life.   Let’s practice positive thinking everyday and expect a positive outcome.   Think positive and only expect favorable results and situations, even if your current circumstances are not as you wish them to be.    In time our mental attitude will affect our life and circumstances and change them accordingly.

Five years ago I happened to browse an article in a magazine which contain this simple mission in life.  When I read this, I just felt like I wanted to adopt this into my life.   I printed this in bold letters and have it framed.   In order for me to read this before I retire to bed and wake up in the morning, I choose to place this on my bedside.   I made it a habit to read this everyday.    This simple mission in life has influenced me a lot.   I become proactive and goal oriented.   It makes difference when everyday you have direction and a mission to accomplish.   Why don’t you try this?

“My mission in life is not only to attain a state of vibrant physical health that allows me to feel confident and attractive infront of others, but also to develop an equally attractive state of emotional well-being that lets me live with integrity, honor, and kindness to others.   My mission is to live my life with great joy and to display the kind of energy that will bring me friends, happiness, and financial success.”

I wanted to share this very self enriching article about self esteem.  Everyone should know what is this all about.   This will make us understand fully ourselves and how to face life ahead.   It’s my wish that all the people will be fully aware on their own behavior.   In this way, life would be easier even in the most intricate situation.

Your self esteem is critical to your success….

It can be hard to identify what exactly healthy
self-esteem is.

The signs of an unhealthy self-esteem are usually
obvious. Someone who cuts themselves down a lot
and is always afraid to make big decisions or use
their talents doesn’t have healthy self-esteem.

Arrogance and boasting are also signs of a poor
self-esteem, even though the person comes across
as supremely self-confident. I think we all know
our fair share of braggarts. It’s hard to spend
time with them.

How many people do you know with healthy
self-esteem?

Nathaniel Branden says, “To trust one’s mind and
to know that one is worthy of happiness is the
essence of self-esteem.”

He goes on to say that someone with high
self-esteem is able to persist in the face of
difficulties. And the more one perseveres, the
more one is likely to succeed.

Self-esteem doesn’t let us simply feel
better…it lets us live better. And to respond
to challenges and opportunities resourcefully.

We usually tend to feel the most comfortable with
people whose self-esteem level is similar to ours.

So if you think you have low self-esteem, start
seeking out people with healthy self-esteem. Take
note of how they think and behave and try to
emulate that. We all need role models and mentors.

Decide how you think the world SHOULD be.

Then, when life doesn’t obey your rules, get angry!
That’s what miserable people do!

Let’s say you expect that:
* People SHOULD appreciate you.
* Planes SHOULD arrive on time.
* Your husband SHOULD remember your birthday.

Sounds reasonable …
but often, these things won’t happen!
So you end up frustrated.

Happy people make fewer DEMANDS on life.
Instead, they have PREFERENCES!

They say:
“I would prefer “A”, but if “B” happens, it’s OK too!”

I PREFER the neighbours to be quiet -
but if they make a noise, I can handle it.

I PREFER people to see my point of view - but when they disagree, it is OK.

You have preferences about the outcome of your plans, but you accept WHATEVER happens.

So your mission today?
Instead of making DEMANDS on life and people, have PREFERENCES.

There are two ways to become happier:
a) change the world, or
b) change your thinking.

It is easier to change your thinking!

Guys below is a topic discussed by Mr. Andrew Matthews and I just find it worth sharing to make this world a better place to live in.  I know this happened to you too. So please read it and do something….

If forgiving others is difficult, forgiving ourselves is even harder. Many people spend their whole lives punishing themselves mentally and physically for what they believe to be their own shortcomings. Some over-eat, some under-eat, some drink themselves into oblivion, some systematically destroy all their relationships, some live a life of poverty or sickness. At the root of this suffering can be a belief system which says, “I have done a lot of naughty things”, “I am guilty”, or “I don’t deserve to be healthy and happy”. You may be surprised at how many sick people there are who are not convinced that they deserve to be healthy and happy!

If you are feeling guilty, I would suggest that you have put yourself through enough. Why prolong it? If you were to feel guilty for extra year or two. you wouldn’t help things.

Throw out the guilt. Not that it’s always easy to throw it out. maintaining a healthy mind takes a lot of effort as does maintaining a healthy body. It is worth the effort.

Blaming and feeling guilty are equally dangerous and destructive. While we blame God, blame others and blame ourselves, we are avoiding the real issue which is to do something about the problem. It is always OUR CHOICE whether we get on with our life and live in the now, or whether we chain ourselves to grudges and upsets of the past.